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Sheila  Beneski

Sheila Anne Beneski (Butler)

Tuesday, November 30th, 1943 - Friday, January 17th, 2020
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Obituary

The First Lady of Connecticut High School Basketball, Sheila Anne (Butler) Beneski, 76, of West Suffield, beloved wife of Frank Beneski, passed away peacefully on January 17, 2020, surrounded by her loving family. Born on November 30, 1943, she was the daughter of the late Harold and Margaret (Fleming) Butler.

Sheila earned her degree from BayPath College and was employed by Dr. William Coen, MD, as a medical secretary, before starting her family and took her permanent role as Mother, Wife and Homemaker which she thoroughly enjoyed and took seriously. She was a former President of the Ladies Guild of St. Bernard’s and an avid member of the St. Bernard’s Prayer Group. She was an avid vegetable gardener in the summer and was the ultimate hostess for every family gathering and holiday celebration. She also served as not only the secretary of the Suffield Athletic Hall of Fame, but more importantly, she was instrumental in the founding and development of this important part of Suffield’s identity.

She is survived by her beloved husband Frank Beneski of 55 years; a son Timothy Beneski and his wife Cara of West Suffield, four beloved grandchildren Chancey, Jake, Seamus, Eamon; a brother Daniel Butler and his wife Maureen; sisters-in-law Bernice Drumheller, Jane Holcomb, and brother-in-law Ted Beneski and his wife Laurie; and her special nieces and caregivers Rebecca Jarvis and Beth Mulhern. She was predeceased by a son, Peter Beneski.

Sheila will be remembered by many for her great passion for high school basketball. She and Frank have been avid fans for over forty years and routinely attended 125 Varsity games (and an equal number of JV and Freshman games) each season for at least twenty-five years. They have received numerous awards and a great deal of recognition for their fandom and philanthropy. The 2020 Boys’ and Girls’ Basketball Tournaments will be dedicated to them.

Throughout their years as fans, Sheila became a known (and much anticipated) spectator at basketball games across the state. She was a friend and supporter of countless players, coaches, referees, administrators, and writers, not to mention a host of other fans. She often joked about what someone might write about her in an obituary while quietly amassing a legion of friends from a community which embraced her wholeheartedly. Her basketball family brought her many long and wonderful friendships for which her family is most grateful.

The Funeral Services will be on Friday, January 24 at 9:00AM from The Heritage Funeral Home with a Mass of Christian burial at 10:00AM at Sacred Heart Church, Suffield. Burial will follow in St. Joseph Cemetery, Suffield. Friends may call at The Heritage Funeral Home 1240 Mountain Road, West Suffield on Thursday, January 23, from 2-4; and 5-7PM.

Online condolences please visit: www.SuffieldFuneralHome.com
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Service Details

  • Visitation

    Thursday, January 23rd, 2020 | 2:00pm - 4:00pm
    When
    Thursday, January 23rd, 2020 2:00pm - 4:00pm
    Location
    Heritage Funeral Home
    Address
    1240 Mountain Road
    P.O. Box 309
    WEST SUFFIELD, CT 06093
    Get Directions: View Map | Text | Email
    The Funeral Services will be on Friday, January 24 at 9:00AM from The Heritage Funeral Home with a Mass of Christian burial at 10:00AM at Sacred Heart Church, Suffield. Burial will follow in St. Joseph Cemetery, Suffield. Friends may call at The Heritage Funeral Home 1240 Mountain Road, West Suffield on Thursday, January 23, from 2-4; and 5-7PM.
  • Second Visitation

    Thursday, January 23rd, 2020 | 5:00pm - 7:00pm
    When
    Thursday, January 23rd, 2020 5:00pm - 7:00pm
    Location
    Heritage Funeral Home
    Address
    1240 Mountain Road
    P.O. Box 309
    WEST SUFFIELD, CT 06093
    Get Directions: View Map | Text | Email
    The Funeral Services will be on Friday, January 24 at 9:00AM from The Heritage Funeral Home with a Mass of Christian burial at 10:00AM at Sacred Heart Church, Suffield. Burial will follow in St. Joseph Cemetery, Suffield. Friends may call at The Heritage Funeral Home 1240 Mountain Road, West Suffield on Thursday, January 23, from 2-4; and 5-7PM.
  • Service

    Friday, January 24th, 2020 | 10:00am
    When
    Friday, January 24th, 2020 10:00am
    Location
    Sacred Heart Church
    Address
    446 Mountain Road
    SUFFIELD, CT 06078
    Get Directions: View Map | Text | Email
    The Funeral Services will be on Friday, January 24 at 9:00AM from The Heritage Funeral Home with a Mass of Christian burial at 10:00AM at Sacred Heart Church, Suffield. Burial will follow in St. Joseph Cemetery, Suffield. Friends may call at The Heritage Funeral Home 1240 Mountain Road, West Suffield on Thursday, January 23, from 2-4; and 5-7PM.
    Officiant
    Rev. Mark R. Jette
  • Interment

    Location
    St Joseph Cemetery-Hill Street-Suffield
    The Funeral Services will be on Friday, January 24 at 9:00AM from The Heritage Funeral Home with a Mass of Christian burial at 10:00AM at Sacred Heart Church, Suffield. Burial will follow in St. Joseph Cemetery, Suffield. Friends may call at The Heritage Funeral Home 1240 Mountain Road, West Suffield on Thursday, January 23, from 2-4; and 5-7PM.

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david pianki

Posted at 03:00pm
Frank, We are so sorry to hear about your loss. We have memories of you and Sheila attending basketball games when our son played at Suffield HS. We had no idea at the time the extent of your commitment to high school basketball, remarkable!
We will miss the two of you strolling past our home by the lake. Our sincerest condolences to you and your family.
David and Lauren Pianki
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Rebecca Gibson-Laemel

Posted at 06:48pm
My heart aches as I absorb the sad reality that Shiela is no longer with us to experience life as we know it.
But, I know that she will be present in spirit at all those high school basketball games around the state for this season and future seasons! My memories of Sheila also go back to Congamond Lake and summers there..... and of course , to Suffield, and to being with both Frank and Sheila on many occasions years ago. Her smile , as we see above, was the best smile EVER.... always a positive spirt and friendly to all. Our high school and young married lives fill a lot of fun memories. I haven't seen Frank and Sheila for several years, but, doesn't matter, I will still miss her and be saddened for this loss for Frank and all their family and close friends.
TG

tom glynn

Posted at 01:01pm
We were so schocked to hear of Sheila,s passing .I grew up with Sheila and Danny every summer at congamond lake in West Suffield. I will always remember that great smile on shelia’s face. Sheila and Frank have been together so long ,it’s hard to imagine her not being here. Our deepest sympathies to Frank ,Danny and your whole family. You are in our thoughts and prayers. Tom and Deni Glynn , St. Petersburg ,fl
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David Bruce Fairman

Posted at 06:08pm
Circa 1950 I took ballroom dance lessons in the Bridge Street School auditorium. Sheila was an ocassional partner and managed to avoid injuries from my wayward Foxtrotting. She survived to enjoy 70 years of civic service. We miss he dearly. May she Rest In Peace.
PJ

Patrick J.Kelly

Posted at 10:24am
When you grew up in Suffield , we were like a big family,Sheila and Frank were such a spiritual couple and my thoughts were on them this past week end thinking they were at the big High School Basketball Tournament at Springfield College, I would always see them there.I being in Florida on vacation was in shock and sorrow to hear of Sheila passing.I am so sorry.GOD LOVE HER
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